A simplified example of my data model to illustrate the behaviour I need:

(def schema
    {:uuid     {:db/unique :db.unique/identity}
     :children {:db/valueType   :db.type/ref
                :db/cardinality :db.cardinality/many
                :db/isComponent true}
     :wraps    {:db/valueType   :db.type/ref
                :db/isComponent true}})
  
  (def conn (d/create-conn schema))

  (d/transact! conn
    [{:uuid 1 :children [{:uuid 2}]}
     {:uuid 3 :wraps {:uuid 2}}])
  
  (d/transact! conn [[:db.fn/retractEntity [:uuid 1]]])